Why You Should Go Home Early Today

By Jeff Haden | May 9, 2011

Biography

Jeff Haden

Jeff Haden learned much of what he knows about management as he worked his way up the printing business from forklift driver to manager of a 250-employee book plant. Everything else he knows, he has picked up from ghostwriting books for some of the smartest CEOs he knows in business. He has written more than 30 non-fiction books, including four Business and Investing titles that reached #1 on Amazon's bestseller list. He'd tell you which ones, but then he'd have to kill you.
Visit his website at: www.blackbirdinc.com

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My client called me the night before he committed suicide.
Several days prior his business offices had been raided by investigators, and while he shared few details, he was desperately concerned about what would happen to him, his employees, and his company. The next morning, alone in a home he rarely visited, he shot himself.
I often wonder what he thought about in his last moments. Certainly he regretted some of the business decisions he had made.
Yet I feel certain he regretted personal choices he had made. We had grown to be friends and he could at times be startlingly — even uncomfortably, at least for me — frank. He sometimes talked about how he wanted a family and children he could spoil and cherish. He talked about finding friends who liked him for himself and not for his connections or influence or money.
He talked about his wife who, years ago, had committed suicide and whether he without knowing bore some responsibility.
That’s why I think he thought mostly about choices; choices he desperately wished he had made differently.
If you knew you only had minutes left to live, what would you think about? You wouldn’t think about work or business. It’s a cliche, but true nonetheless: No one on their deathbed regrets not spending enough time at work. Would you really think about money you never earned, or projects you never completed, or companies you never started? Would those be your regrets?
Would those be the types of choices you would want back?
Of course not. You would think about the people you love and how you would have spent more time with them. You would have told them, over and over, just how much they meant to you. I think those are the decisions he thought about in his last minutes. At heart, regardless of mistakes he made, I think he was a good man. Flawed, like all of us, but still a good person.
I tried the best I could to express his love for family and friends in his eulogy. Still, I sometimes wish I could find a better, more lasting way to honor his memory.