Why You Should Go Home Early Today

By Jeff Haden | May 9, 2011

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Jeff Haden

Jeff Haden learned much of what he knows about management as he worked his way up the printing business from forklift driver to manager of a 250-employee book plant. Everything else he knows, he has picked up from ghostwriting books for some of the smartest CEOs he knows in business. He has written more than 30 non-fiction books, including four Business and Investing titles that reached #1 on Amazon's bestseller list. He'd tell you which ones, but then he'd have to kill you.
Visit his website at: www.blackbirdinc.com

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My client called me the night before he committed suicide.
Several days prior his business offices had been raided by investigators, and while he shared few details, he was desperately concerned about what would happen to him, his employees, and his company. The next morning, alone in a home he rarely visited, he shot himself.
I often wonder what he thought about in his last moments. Certainly he regretted some of the business decisions he had made.
Yet I feel certain he regretted personal choices he had made. We had grown to be friends and he could at times be startlingly — even uncomfortably, at least for me — frank. He sometimes talked about how he wanted a family and children he could spoil and cherish. He talked about finding friends who liked him for himself and not for his connections or influence or money.
He talked about his wife who, years ago, had committed suicide and whether he without knowing bore some responsibility.
That’s why I think he thought mostly about choices; choices he desperately wished he had made differently.
If you knew you only had minutes left to live, what would you think about? You wouldn’t think about work or business. It’s a cliche, but true nonetheless: No one on their deathbed regrets not spending enough time at work. Would you really think about money you never earned, or projects you never completed, or companies you never started? Would those be your regrets?
Would those be the types of choices you would want back?
Of course not. You would think about the people you love and how you would have spent more time with them. You would have told them, over and over, just how much they meant to you. I think those are the decisions he thought about in his last minutes. At heart, regardless of mistakes he made, I think he was a good man. Flawed, like all of us, but still a good person.
I tried the best I could to express his love for family and friends in his eulogy. Still, I sometimes wish I could find a better, more lasting way to honor his memory.

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Jeff Haden learned much of what he knows about management as he worked his way up the printing business from forklift driver to manager of a 250-employee book plant. Everything else he knows, he has picked up from ghostwriting books for some of the smartest CEOs he knows in business. He has written more than 30 non-fiction books, including four Business and Investing titles that reached #1 on Amazon's bestseller list. He'd tell you which ones, but then he'd have to kill you.
Visit his website at: www.blackbirdinc.com


My client called me the night before he committed suicide.

Several days prior his business offices had been raided by investigators, and while he shared few details, he was desperately concerned about what would happen to him, his employees, and his company.  The next morning, alone in a home he rarely visited, he shot himself.
I often wonder what he thought about in his last moments. Certainly he regretted some of the business decisions he had made.

Yet I feel certain he regretted personal choices he had made.  We had grown to be friends and he could at times be startlingly — even uncomfortably, at least for me — frank.  He sometimes talked about how he wanted a family and children he could spoil and cherish.  He talked about finding friends who liked him for himself and not for his connections or influence or money.
He talked about his wife who, years ago, had committed suicide and whether he without knowing bore some responsibility.

That's why I think he thought mostly about choices; choices he desperately wished he had made differently.
If you knew you only had minutes left to live, what would you think about?  You wouldn't think about work or business.  It's a cliche, but true nonetheless:  No one on their deathbed regrets not spending enough time at work.  Would you really think about money you never earned, or projects you never completed, or companies you never started?  Would those be your regrets?
Would those be the types of choices you would want back?

Of course not.  You would think about the people you love and how you would have spent more time with them.  You would have told them, over and over, just how much they meant to you.  I think those are the decisions he thought about in his last minutes.  At heart, regardless of mistakes he made, I think he was a good man.  Flawed, like all of us, but still a good person.

I tried the best I could to express his love for family and friends in his eulogy.  Still, I sometimes wish I could find a better, more lasting way to honor his memory.

There is a way.  But I need your help.

Today, go home early.  Not tomorrow and not some other day.  Today.  At the latest, leave right on time.  Projects and contracts and promotions and money and glory will be there waiting for you tomorrow.  Go home, find somewhere quiet, and sit with your spouse or significant other and tell them how much they mean to you.  Set aside any baggage or resentment, take off any emotional armor you wear, think about why you fell in love in the first place, and speak from your heart.

Then hang out with your kids.  Talk to them.  Praise them.  All your kids want is your attention.  Attention is the easiest and the best gift you can offer.

Or call a friend you've lost touch with.  Swallow your pride if necessary and reach out.  Take the first step.
Above all, live today differently.  Someday we will all probably wish we had made a few different choices along the way, but at least we won't wish to change anything about today.
I think my client — and more importantly, my friend — would like that.

Law of the Garbage Truck

This has to be one of the best emails I have received in a long time because when you sit and think about the meaning, it is so true.

Law of the Garbage Truck

One day I hopped in a taxi and we took off for the airport.

We were driving in the right lane when suddenly a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us.

My taxi driver slammed on his brakes, skidded, and missed the other car by just inches! The driver of the other car whipped his head around and started yelling at us.

My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. And I mean, he was really friendly.

So I asked, 'Why did you just do that? This guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!'

This is when my taxi driver taught me what I now call, 'The Law of the Garbage Truck.'

He explained that many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment.

As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it and sometimes they'll dump it on you. Don't take it personally.

Just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. Don't take their garbage and spread it to other people at work, at home, or on the streets.

The bottom line is that successful people do not let garbage trucks take over their day.

Life's too short to wake up in the morning with regrets,

so ... Love the people who treat you right.

Pray for the ones who don't.

Life is ten percent what you make it and ninety percent how you take it!

Have a garbage-free day!